My kid came home early from her dad’s because I let her go see her baby brother when he was born.
Let me back track to March when my baby was born and he pulled the “right to refusal” crap on me so she couldn’t come to the hospital because technically I wouldn’t be watching her because idk, I was having a fucking baby. My husband wound up making an extra trip back an hour and a half for no reason to pick her up for him to text he wasnt bringing her back…🙄
It took all my willpower not to say “how about you go fuck yourself, she can wait 2 days to see her baby brother when it’s ‘your’ time”. However, I’m not like that. It isn’t about me. It’s about our kid. And that’s her baby brother, not just your ‘spite’ baby. We have reasons for that. And this will most likely piss off a LOT of people.
But here’s the facts. They got together before I did with my husband, they got married a year before we did, and they both have other kid(s). Yet, they didn’t get pregnant until directly after our baby was born?! Also, for you folks who don’t know us… after we had the first miscarriage, we obviously didn’t tell many people about the second…. this dude and his wife somehow had a twin miscarriage. Tell me this is all coincidence and I’ll give you more examples of how it isn’t.
The point of this rant is I am so tired of living our lives around someone else. This is not the way it should be. We can’t move without permission, we can’t go on trips without him knowing everything. Some times we go to the store and later the kid will get a phone call asking what she got from the store… How the fuck did you know we were at the store?!!?
I just don’t get it. He got married. I found the love of my life. Why is it still a competition?! I’m not competing anyone. I’m just raising my tween and taking care of my baby. I’m sick of feeling like theres some game I didn’t realize I was playing. The ‘let’s see how many buttons we can push and feed off of it like zombies until she loses it!’ Game.
And tell me don’t let it bother me. I’ve tried that too. You know what happens? They find new ways to piss me off. Like the 2000 dollars I have to shell out for competitive cheer I don’t see a dime of from his side because he “gives me child support”. Except that barely covers her food, let alone her cheer life! 🙄
We always handle it, deal with it. I just think noone should have to. Yes, you had a kid together because you were young or in love once. But that shouldn’t hold either parent back. There should be communication and compromise and mostly co parenting. Something we are definitely sorely lacking regardless of the amount of people who tell us to talk. Its get suggested, he says “yes, maybe, I gotta talk to the wife, and we’ll see” and then doesn’t do it because he was never planning on it in the first place.
So, until my kid is old enough, or he stops being a complete lack of parent, I will still hear “well at dad’s he let’s me… ” and he will still here “well at mom’s she let’s me…” Until then, I’ll just keep doing what I’ve been doing for almost 12 years…. making sure my kid has rules and is parented but also has fun with us and her baby sister. 🤷♀️
