My oldest is going to be 12 in a few months. She has a social life and many extra curricular activities. You know what I STILL here every other weekend?!? “It’s my time with her, I have plans with her.”
Well congratufuckinglations! Super glad you get to pick and choose when to be a dad! I get it, 2 weekends a month, once a week for a few hours every week, isn’t a lot of time. You know what else isn’t a lot of time? The rest of the week and the other 2 weekends of the month!
I am tired of hearing how I “have her all the time” and how he “doesn’t get to spend time with her.”
I don’t get her “all the time”. Because she has school from 7am to 330pm so if she actually does get up on time and ready on time (hahahahaha) I’ll get to see her for 5 mins as opposed to 7seconds as shes running out the door from upstairs, grabbing her coat, and throwing on her shoes, to catch the bus. Fast forward to 330pm, pending she doesn’t ask to go to a friends house, she comes home and does her chores, homework, plays with her sister, gets on her phone for maybe 30 mins before it’s time to for me (or my husband!) To cook. Then dinner, shower, bed.
On days she has practice it’s usually come home, homework, no time for chores, change into uniform, find shoes, that she just can’t ever remember where she put them, and if she does it fast enough has time to eat a quick dinner before heading off to practice for 2 hours, coming home to eat a quick dinner after (if we didnt have time), and go to bed.
Weekends, the ones that fall on what’s considered “my time”, is usually birthday parties for her friends, and sleepovers at her friends or at our house. Why, because if I don’t say yes, if I decide to be selfish, she would never see her friends outside of school.
Competition weekends are also fun. 7am to 7pm if we’re lucky! Some can be full weekend events!
But again, tell me how its “your time” again, please! 🙄 I’m so sick of hearing it. You know what I want?! I want to know where you think I have All this time with our kid!?! Because from my point of view, you’ve spent more time with her on your 2 weekends a month than I’ve gotten in the last 2 years!
And “your time” should be spent building a relationship with her but all you do is piss her off because you say no to her going to friends for sleepovers and birthday parties. That is, unless it’s your friend’s kids. Then it’s all fine. Ridiculous. I’m not saying give up every weekend, obviously, but maybe one of your weekends you let a kid sleepover that isn’t in your “comfort zone”, or let her go spend the night somewhere once in awhile, or at least let her go to a birthday party. And for the love of all, do your homework on these “friends” before you just jump in and then something bad happens because you didn’t know this kid well….🙄
I’m so exhausted from having to tell parents “I’ll ask her dad, that falls on his weekend….” and hearing “ok, so then she probably won’t be attending then.” Because after years of hearing it, her friend’s parents already know if it doesn’t fall on my weekend, she won’t make it.
She’ll be 12 in a few months… let her be social and grow and learn already!
Our little but loud family. 